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Questions you'd ask "Dad". Older man-advice for younger people.

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Posted by9 hours ago

外围体育投注You speak 9 languages, I am aware of that. You can fix everything, I know that. I know that you could fix your own bike when you were 6. But you never tought me anything you seem to know "so much" about.

When I ask you to teach me how to do something, be it fixing my bike, or fixing the tv, why do you send me away, saying "you don't know how? How pathetic, I knew it by the age of..." and why do you never actually show me how to? Why do you laugh when I make mistakes? Why do you ridicule me?

Why do you correct my own mother language, when you know that I say things correctly? Why do you laugh when I start speaking in german to you? Why do you laugh at my french? I know that you are better, but why laugh at my mistakes, why aren't you aware that I only want to impress you? Why can't I make you proud?

Why do you imitate me with a ridiculing undertone whlie saying how stupid I am?

I never believed I was smart. You made me feel like the dumbest person alive. And because of that, I never studied well. Yet I was always best in my class. I graduated with excellent grades, and I still believed that it was due to chance, that "oh, I was only lucky." I remember how you reacted. At the time, I didn't know that you were jealous. But now that's my best guess. You were unimpressed and you got mad at me. I didn't know what to make of that. I was mad, but not at you. I was furious at myself. I felt like I disappointed you, that I disappointed your belief that I was dumb. I felt that if I had gotten worse grades, maybe you would have been happier. And that was why I didn't even study for my exams. I wanted to prove to you that I am indeed stupid. That I am less than you. Because that was the only thing I ever felt you wanted from me. You wanted to feel more special, and better than anyone else. But I failed.

Why do you make me feel miserable, just for the sake of you feeling better about yourself?

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I’m buying my first car this weekend! I want a car with low maintenance costs and something hardy that will last a long time. What should I look for? Recommendations?

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I'm not looking to go to parties or find a girlfriend or any of that movie crap, I just want to get through High School so that my life can start. Do you have any advice for me?

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Posted by2 days ago

外围体育投注Hi Dads Im 24F and i just started trying to see this one guy 27M i told him i wanna go slow then he french kissed me and touched my boob the.... Um was i not clear enough with go slow or is he just testing bounderies or something. Ive never dated before really so this is all knew to me any advice is helpful

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New parent here! Baby is breastfed and really dependent on mom. Dad feels akward around baby. He feels really overwhelmed when baby cries, resulting in him never wanting to interact with him. Its like pulling teeth to get him to care tor the baby for more than 5 minutes a day. He might change 1 diaper, and never a poopy one. If he has to take care of him, if he cries he just lays him down and ignores him. How do I get him to bond more with his son? It just seems like he is not confident around baby. I want him to enjoy his son. What do I do??

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Posted by4 days ago

So there’s this guy I’m dating who I love to bits and pieces but it’s difficult right now. I’m not sure if the relationship is healthy for us. We’ve been dating a while but lately he has been more distant than usual. He has been having worse mental issues than normal and I think I might be one of the stressors.

外围体育投注I talked to him about it last night and I’m not going to lie, I’m really hurting. It really hurts and I cry a good bit because of it. He said that he doesn’t feel the same anymore but he wants to keep going on with the relationship to see if we can respark something. I’m not sure if I should stay or go. I love him a lot so I want the best for him. I would love to stay in the relationship and work through it, but is it worth all the pain? I’m trying my hardest right now to help the relationship and try to mend it but it feels one sided...

I don’t want to stay here and only get hurt worse but I want to try and fix the relationship. It feels one sided on both levels — love (because it is) and trying to fix the relationship. He has DID and that does affect this a lot but I’m just confused and hurting right now. Should I let go and move on or should I sit here and hope it’ll get better?

  • Your very confused and heartbroken daughter.

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There seems to be a significant problem where many young people are without a good older "Dad" figure in their lives with whom they can talk frankly about life. Feel free to ask about anything. Life, death, sex and taxes. We're a helpful community and only ask that you be respectful and keep your elbows off of the table when you're eating.
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