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Aromantic Asexual

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Posted by9 hours ago

So, im pretty sure im asexual, the thought of being sexual with anyone kinda grosses me out, and ive had plent of opportunity. And ive been identifying as demiromantic for a not very ling but im not sure if thats right.

Ive been in quite a few relationships and i didnt hate them. We alwags knew eachother pretty well before dating, thats why i thought i might be demi. But im not sure a romantic relationship is what im after.

外围体育投注Sometimes i see people maybe i like their frame or how smooth their skin looks, or a defining feagure like striking eyes or something and i think 'pretty'. And that happens a lot i have initial asthetuc atraction twords people but it never ends to think I want to sleep with them or date them. I think i might have sensual attraction? Like i like kissing and embracing and holding hands, light touching in general, but not all the time.

And i think i want to identify more on the side of demi cause I think j may potentially want a partner? Like maybe? But it might also not happen? Like is there a term inbetween completly aro and demi? Idk. The thing that sounds the most like what i may eventually look for is a platonic partner. Idk this shits confusing.

I like doing nice things for my friends but i don't like feeling obligated to when in relationships. And idk. i don't really like one on one dates group stuff is good, but then its not really a date anymore.

Idk i guess labels dont really matter in the long run, ya know live life how you wanna live and all shall be dandy. but its nice having a community to talk to, thats why theres groups to begin with right? To share simular life experiences or thoughts and whatnot? Idk sorry my thoughts are scattered, thanks for taking the time :]

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外围体育投注so i’m questioning whether or not i’m aromantic, and although i don’t really want a romantic relationship, i always find relationships in books movies and shows interesting. i do want a relationship later in life, but a qpr not a romantic one. anyways, i’d consider myself to be a romantic, but i’m also wondering if i’m aromantic.

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Posted by1 day ago

I keep trying to hint to my mom that I’m aromantic, and today I told her that I don’t think I want to get married. She got very defensive, as she is very conservative and has very traditional values. She keeps telling me that I’m too young to know, and that she expects grandkids, and lots of other things. Have any of you experienced the same thing with your family, and how did they react when you told them explicitly? Thanks.

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Posted by1 day ago

Wanted to know, in your opinion, since I'm not entirely sure, do you think an aroace person would be allowed to say the f slur? I think not, but I wanna know y'alls opinions 😌 (Just to clarify, people are saying shit down in the comments, I do not at all believe aroace people should in fact be able to say it, and am not seeking justification. I was just curious for other opinions)

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Posted by1 day ago
  1. You're too shy/timid/embarrassed/etc to even begin to confront the idea of being naked with another human being

  2. You're too scared to admit to yourself or others that #1 is true

  3. 外围体育投注Claiming the aroace identity not only provides cover for #1/2, but also scores a few edginess points via association to the "LGBTQIA" community.

外围体育投注---- edit after 24 comments ---

I'm not aphobic, I'm just confused about this stuff because I'm autistic and to me the whole romanticism and sexuality matter is intertwined with my general issues with socialization.

外围体育投注I wasn't trying to be snarky or cynical, I'm just wondering if people had the same guilty thoughts I do about my own potential subconscious motivations for identifying in this way.

外围体育投注I don't so much struggle with #1 and #2 anymore, but I did when I was younger and I remember finding comfort in the concept of asexuality because it implied that maybe I wasn't just "being a pussy" (I don't support this type of speech, I'm highlighting my fear of being targeted by bullies due to lack of confidence - quite common at that age).

So I thought perhaps other people who still struggle with it might have held onto that identity as a form of self-protection, even though I ended up not having to. #3 Does hold some appeal to me, regardless of #1 or #2. I feel there is almost an inherited nobility in belonging to one or more marginalized groups. Of course to seek out identity in one of those groups solely for that motivation is super disingenuous, but the human mind is sneaky, and people are often largely unaware of the true motivations behind even their own intimate, internal dialogue.

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